What is Sex Therapy?

Sex Therapy is so many things!

Folks who decide to start sex therapy often come to discover more about their sexuality and interests or overcome barriers to having the sex they want. Some people come in wanting to talk about something unrelated to sex but need to be assured that their unique sexuality will be respected and affirmed. As a sex therapist, I work with both individuals and couples in online sex therapy sessions.

You can expect online sex therapy to involve a good mix of education, skill development, and processing experiences. To talk about sexuality directly, you need extra safe space. I take time to cultivate a trusting therapeutic relationship. This means that we will slow down where we need to just to notice how it feels to begin and continue these vulnerable and important conversations.

Sex therapy does not involve sexual contact between the therapist and client.

PERFORMANCE & FUNCTIONING

I often meet with men who have difficulty in obtaining and maintaining erections or notice that ejaculation isn’t happening as they’d like it to. I help men understand how their biology and psychology meet, get in touch with their bodies, and have sex that feels better for them. No matter if your concern is medically or mind-based, a sex therapist can help you get more connected to the present moment, sensation, and pleasure.

DESIRE

I meet with people who notice that their sexual desire has been historically slim, higher than they are comfortable with, or has significantly changed. Some folks have a good idea why this is happening, while others come in to discover why. Partners often come in to explore how to connect when they have varying levels of desire.

KINK & BDSM

Your identity, experiences, and practices are welcome here. Clients come into sex therapy to explore how they might introduce kink and BDSM into their lives and how to establish consent and safety. Folks also begin sex therapy to process emotions that come up during playtime, as well as learn how to communicate needs, wants, and boundaries in meaningful ways. Many people don’t want kink and BDSM to be a primary focus of therapy but want to know their lifestyle will be affirmed.

SEXUAL IDENTITY

Some people come into sex therapy already comfortable knowing who they are attracted to and who they want to have sex with and be in relationships with. Others come in either feeling unclear or carrying shame about their sexuality. I’m here to affirm you for who you are and help you feel centered in your authenticity.

CONSENSUAL NON-MONOGAMY

Whether you’re considering if non-monogamy is for you or wanting to sure up your relationships, sex therapy is a place to discover relationship agreements, boundaries, and keep your partnerships going strong. As a sex therapist, I help clients move closer towards secure attachment with themselves and partners by finding clarity and communicating what’s most important.

SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS

People get them and so rarely talk about them. The stigma surrounding STIs and STDs is unnecessarily heavy. Sex therapy is a safe place to talk about your experiences, how to communicate about STIs, and consider “what’s next.” At my online therapy practice, you will never be judged for the condition of your body.